Career Change

How To Find “You”

On December 22, 2023 by

Reflecting back at the previous post, let’s break down the 3 steps, so that you can have a more practical approach on how to find you.

The first step was “ KNOW WHO YOU ARE”.

Sounds perfect, right?

But how?

Can you find your abilities, tendencies and talents over night to make life changing decisions such as choice of career path or over all life style?

Especially if those decisions will have impacts on your life that may not be undone..

I am not trying to make the “finding yourself” process more stressful and challenging but it is quite critical to point this fact out because reality is there waiting for us to acknowledge it. And that reality is that it is quite hard to find one’s hidden gems. Not everyone discovers their talent at a young age while being able to invest on them to make them their passion for the rest of a lifetime. Also, not everyone can make a living out of their abilities and talents even though they discover them early on. We are all bound to conditions and opportunities we are provided within our societies.

For these reasons, it is crucial to follow a systematic approach to find your aces and check whether you can invest on them or not. Let’s have a look yet another simple list regarding how you can find what makes you unique.

1. Know your basic personality traits

If you are going to do a job that needs to earn a living and make you satisfied with its outcomes at the same time, it needs to comply with your personality traits so that you can find motivation along the way. This is because the more you do what you do better or best, the more you get good outcomes which will lead to more motivation to keep on.

What I mean by personality trait is that your basic approach to solving problems, or the most comfortable ways you manifest yourself. Of course this is a quite primitive way to describe the term but if you need further explanation and information, I can create a separate post about personality traits later on. Let me know on the Comments below Millenns 🙂

Based on this phenomenon, if you are an extrovert it means you are an outgoing person with motivation to seek new adventures. By adventures it can mean both climbing a high mountain or commencing a business you have always dreamt of having. Having this trait, meeting new people and making new friends are easy tasks for you. Also, it means that you are comfortable in stranger environments as compared to others and have the ability to adopt your surroundings better. Having this trait, therefore, can make you good at teaching, sales, marketing, etc.

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2. Consider your background and upbringing

As much as knowing your personality traits, it is also important to be aware of your background in terms of education and training. Education or training does not determine your capabilities and potential alone.  However they can be powerful forces to get you ahead. 

Also, your family background can have effects on how you make your decisions and proceed on your life choices. Having brought up in an authoritarian family can make risk taking more difficult for you, for instance. Therefore, you may have hesitations when you face make-or-break decisions since you may seek approval even though you know that this is your own and yours only decision. These two factors –background on education and upbringing- can have more significant effects than you may ever imagine. Being aware of this situation makes it more clear what are your limitations and drawbacks are. Thankfully, awareness can be translated into solutions and answers if you are keen on making progress.

3. Take the first step NOW

After having a grasp of the two steps above, you need to take a step instantly. Waiting only makes it more overwhelming and you eventually start procrastinating. The more you delay your aspirations and wants, the more confusion, self-doubt and frustration it brings. Therefore, having a master plan and setting short-time goals to reach that plan is the only option for you after you figure out the two aspects above. You may blame so many things for your current unhappy and unsatisfying situation. But as soon as you realize what needs to be done, you cannot have that luxury to blame something or someone other than yourself since the solution lies before your hands to reach and have it.

I do not believe in regrets concerning the past but I do feel that we are all obliged to shape the future the way we want it if we want to make a difference.

If we don’t, I believe that this is the only thing to be regretful of.